If you are wondering how to get your ex back now that you have broken up, than let me tell you - in most cases it is doable. But the problem is that most people are doing it wrong. In fact, in many cases you will be driving your ex even further from you and not back to you!
First, let's talk about the thing you should not do. Simply avoid doing these, no matter what:
1. Chasing you ex. This is a big no-no. If you chase her or him with phone calls, emails, sending your friends as messengers and any other tricks, the only thing that will happen is that your ex start hating or fearing you. This leaves no chance of comeback what so ever.
2. Stalking your ex - again, a big no-no. If you will try to force them to see you by ambushing her or him you will only make things worse. People will start calling you "a stalker" and you will find it hard to make new friends this way. Even if you say, you dont mind being called a stalker, that isnt going to help, so better avoid it.
3. Being depressed - If you let yourself slide into depression, other areas of your life will suffer. Some people even lost their job because their relationship came to an end. Don't let this happen to you.
4. Avoiding social life - If you will become a hermit as a result of a break up, that again you will only be punishing yourself. There is a big world out there, and you can find love. Be that your ex or another person.
So what should you do?
1. Create more value for yourself - When your ex left you, in many cases it was because she did not value you and your relationship high enough to stay. Therefore, your job is to create more value for yourself. For example, if you're a man, you can build more value by her hearing about you meeting other women.This wont be much convincing for many people, but jealousy can do anything!
2. Stay in touch - though it may hurt, stay in touch with your ex. This can be with email or sms, if you are not comfortable talking. When you do that, you remain her or him of the good times you had together and you also signal that there is a way back.She may start missing you and will want you to come back.
3. Do a make over - in many cases, being in a relationship for more than a year makes you less groomed. If you feel you've been neglecting yourself lately, start going to the gym and buy new and cool clothes. This will make you feel better about yourself and you will resonate that feeling to your surroundings. Your ex will feel that too. Its important that she notices that change in you.
4. Let her seek you out - Don't chase your ex around. Let them come to you. Doing all the things we just talked about will help you regain your confidence and your ex will feel that. Confident people attract other people, and your ex will be attracted to you again.
First, let's talk about the thing you should not do. Simply avoid doing these, no matter what:
1. Chasing you ex. This is a big no-no. If you chase her or him with phone calls, emails, sending your friends as messengers and any other tricks, the only thing that will happen is that your ex start hating or fearing you. This leaves no chance of comeback what so ever.
2. Stalking your ex - again, a big no-no. If you will try to force them to see you by ambushing her or him you will only make things worse. People will start calling you "a stalker" and you will find it hard to make new friends this way. Even if you say, you dont mind being called a stalker, that isnt going to help, so better avoid it.
3. Being depressed - If you let yourself slide into depression, other areas of your life will suffer. Some people even lost their job because their relationship came to an end. Don't let this happen to you.
4. Avoiding social life - If you will become a hermit as a result of a break up, that again you will only be punishing yourself. There is a big world out there, and you can find love. Be that your ex or another person.
So what should you do?
1. Create more value for yourself - When your ex left you, in many cases it was because she did not value you and your relationship high enough to stay. Therefore, your job is to create more value for yourself. For example, if you're a man, you can build more value by her hearing about you meeting other women.This wont be much convincing for many people, but jealousy can do anything!
2. Stay in touch - though it may hurt, stay in touch with your ex. This can be with email or sms, if you are not comfortable talking. When you do that, you remain her or him of the good times you had together and you also signal that there is a way back.She may start missing you and will want you to come back.
3. Do a make over - in many cases, being in a relationship for more than a year makes you less groomed. If you feel you've been neglecting yourself lately, start going to the gym and buy new and cool clothes. This will make you feel better about yourself and you will resonate that feeling to your surroundings. Your ex will feel that too. Its important that she notices that change in you.
4. Let her seek you out - Don't chase your ex around. Let them come to you. Doing all the things we just talked about will help you regain your confidence and your ex will feel that. Confident people attract other people, and your ex will be attracted to you again.
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