Girls: How to get back your ex?

Be the person he fell in love with. He was attracted to you because he felt good with you, and you were fulfilling his emotional needs. How have you changed? Correct bad habits and mistakes, if any. Be positive around him. Laugh and smile. Always stay positive to feel good about yourself and make friends around you.

Use the past to your advantage. If he's ever complimented your outfit, wear it again. Or, share a light-hearted memory with him. If you have a chance to meet him, do it at a familiar place you used to hang out together.

Let him know you were thinking about him. Remember that one time you two went to dinner at that great new restaurant and had a fabulous time? Leave him a short email telling him you ate there recently and thought of him. And, by the way, how is he doing? This is a non-threatening way to have a light conversation, and also, a small request for a reply back.

If you just broke up (less than a couple weeks) completely ignore him. He will call you if he likes you. If he doesn't then nothing you say or wear will change that. This works unless you are dealing with a guy that thinks that if you aren't coming after him, you don't care. Sometimes, ignoring him makes him feel like you are perfectly fine without him and are moving on, which is the exact opposite of what you want when you are trying to get back with your man. Be sure you know exactly what type of guy you are dealing with when trying to get him back.

Remember, no situation is hopeless. Every day, couples get back together regardless of the situation.

Find other things to focus on. If you focus your attention on a new activity, you will have less time to miss your ex boyfriend. You feel stronger and more in control of your life. And if you are still in contact, your ex boyfriend will notice that you have "moved on". This will make you more desirable to him.

How to get back your ex?

If you are wondering how to get your ex back now that you have broken up, than let me tell you - in most cases it is doable. But the problem is that most people are doing it wrong. In fact, in many cases you will be driving your ex even further from you and not back to you!

 First, let's talk about the thing you should not do. Simply avoid doing these, no matter what:

1. Chasing you ex. This is a big no-no. If you chase her or him with phone calls, emails, sending your friends as messengers and any other tricks, the only thing that will happen is that your ex start hating or fearing you. This leaves no chance of comeback what so ever.

2. Stalking your ex - again, a big no-no. If you will try to force them to see you by ambushing her or him you will only make things worse. People will start calling you "a stalker" and you will find it hard to make new friends this way. Even if you say, you dont mind being called a stalker, that isnt going to help, so better avoid it.

3. Being depressed - If you let yourself slide into depression, other areas of your life will suffer. Some people even lost their job because their relationship came to an end. Don't let this happen to you.

4. Avoiding social life - If you will become a hermit as a result of a break up, that again you will only be punishing yourself. There is a big world out there, and you can find love. Be that your ex or another person.


So what should you do?


1. Create more value for yourself - When your ex left you, in many cases it was because she did not value you and your relationship high enough to stay. Therefore, your job is to create more value for yourself. For example, if you're a man, you can build more value by her hearing about you meeting other women.This wont be much convincing for many people, but jealousy can do anything!

2. Stay in touch - though it may hurt, stay in touch with your ex. This can be with email or sms, if you are not comfortable talking. When you do that, you remain her or him of the good times you had together and you also signal that there is a way back.She may start missing you and will want you to come back.

3. Do a make over - in many cases, being in a relationship for more than a year makes you less groomed. If you feel you've been neglecting yourself lately, start going to the gym and buy new and cool clothes. This will make you feel better about yourself and you will resonate that feeling to your surroundings. Your ex will feel that too. Its important that she notices that change in you.

4. Let her seek you out - Don't chase your ex around. Let them come to you. Doing all the things we just talked about will help you regain your confidence and your ex will feel that. Confident people attract other people, and your ex will be attracted to you again.

When do you know the guy too likes you?

You can never be entirely sure if ANYONE likes you. Guys have difficulties figuring out if a girl likes him, and it would be a lot easier if you just told him. I advise you to just ASK the guy whether he likes you or not. It will not only make him feel good, but if he likes you, there will be a higher chance for him to ask you out because he won't have to worry about rejection.

If a guy likes you, he may make fun of you, but in a teasing manner, not being serious. If he hurts you physically, hes abusive and it does NOT show he likes you. If he touches you, thats alright, but hitting you is different, unless its light or made jokingly.

So just ask him. You can TRY to figure it out but you'll never be sure unless he just tells you or you ask him. Just pay attention to how much attention he pays to you. If he'll stop talking to someone to talk to you, or to say hi/wave or whatever, thats a sign. If you catch him staring often, and he holds your eyes for just a little longer after you catch him, thats a sign. Just watch how he acts around you, and how much he focuses on you. You won't be sure though, but if he has most of the signs you can figure out then ask him, and there will be a high chance he will.

When do you know the girl too likes you?

Sometimes you really cannot figure out whether the girl likes you too or not. At this point its important to test the girl. Here's what you can do.

Smile at her. Do a natural smile - don't freak her out. If she smiles politely, or frowns and looks away, she is obviously freaked out by you. If she returns a soft or big smile and continues to look at you, then she is interested. If she smiles then runs over to the crowd of her friends and hides in the group then she may be nervous and curious if you know that she likes you.

Observe how she looks at you. If she likes you, she will either hold it for a long time or pull away immediately. Either of these could mean that she likes you. If she pulls away quickly, it means she is nervous but she still likes you. Some girls might just be staring so don't think she loves you and wants to kiss. But if she holds the stare, and you see love in her eyes, then she is confident and she may make the first move. If you happen to glance at the girl and you see her staring back at you, then this means that she likes you, although she may quickly dart her head in a different direction.

Watch for signs of flirting. If she's flirting, she may be difficult to read. Flirting girls may flirt with guys who they consider to be just friends, and it can be misconstrued as a crush. Although some girls have no idea they are flirting. Most girls do not want to be obvious, the flirting ones might flirt with you a little bit less or they might flirt with you even more. Either way, don't "flirt around". Do not flirt with other girls. If she ever sees you putting your arm around another girl or sees another girl huggine you, she may jump to conclusions and assume she doesn't mean anything to you. And she has nothing you like or she doesn't act the way you like girls.

Act normally. You should behave as if you do not know anything. It may happen that she wouldnt like you too.

Dating tips for guys

So far you have managed to ask your girl out for the date and got a yes. So whats next? To impress your girl. You should take care of the following. See you dont miss out any!

Grooming- Every girl likes to go out with a guy who looks good. Give extra importance to your dressing. Wear apparels which look good on you and your comfortable with. Do not wear skinny clothes or bagged ones. Apply deo and a bit of cologne.

Attitude matter- Be fun to hang around with and outgoing. Just don't be full of yourself. A girl may like an overly cocky guy at first, but eventually, she will find it selfish. Don't try to impress everyone: girls like humble guys, cool natured. A sense of humor is always good. Girls love when guys can make them laugh. Yes they do! So do it as much as you can.

Conversation- Have healthy conversations and don’t speak too much before girls. Speak in moderation; the other person should not feel that you’re not interested and also don’t speak in excess so that he/she doesn’t get time to speak. Keeping a balance is important.

Give Respect- Always respect her opinion and ideas, and don’t criticize her. Give her compliments and never talk anything disgraceful to her friends. Positive criticism can be done later.

Be positive- Talk more about your strong points and weaknesses that you can improve later, but everything in moderation.

Behave well in front of their parents- Be kind to everyone, especially them. Don't be too over-the-top charming with the parents, however, or they'll think that you have something to hide.Be willing make sure that you and her father get along as he will be looking out for his daughter.

Do not try it too hard- Sure, you'll get their attention for a day or two then after a while, the girl will end up frustrated, and she'll think you don't find interest in her anymore.

Do you find it difficult to make new friends?

Making new friends can be difficult for people who are usually introvert! When you cannot express yourself well, people wont be comfortable with you. Now some of them may be extrovert and yet may not have friends. So its actually important to maintain a balance, as far as your behavior is concerned. The following tips may help.

Look, listen and understand people- We humans generally dont like to listen anyone, we are rather impatient to convey what we think, to others rather than knowing what they think. Now, to make new friends, you have to listen to them and get along with them well. You may even need to change a bit to adjust well with them.

Start with people of your gender and proceed with the opposite later- Well this probably applies to guys only. When you dont have good male friends and you start going around looking for some female friends, i tell you, you are going to be a big failure! Ofcourse, this shouldnt be followed strictly. You may make new female friends along with male friends but see to it that you do keep that number low.

Treat your friends equally. Often we have a tendency to treat some of our friends better than few others. This might hurt them and they may leave you. Like in a case of guy, if you just talk with your female friends all the time, your male friends are surely going to leave you someday. So treat every friend of yours equally.

Check out for your type and class of people- People richer and poorer than you may not get along well with you. So its important to be friends with people of your class.

Keep your behavior polite with everyone. Compromising at times may help you to sustain your friendship.

How to impress someone

I am sure that you like someone and you havent been much successful till now to impress them. Impressing someone is like winning their heart. So its never easy to do that. Especially if you are looking to get that person, you have to occupy their mind completely. 


Your nature and your personality matters the most. Be polite with them and do not at all sound flirty. Dont make them feel inferior in front you nor should you make a fun of yourself. 


Do not BLUSH in front of them. Ya i know, it becomes difficult to hide that when you are around them but you have to. Stay cool and behave friendly. Do not behave cheaply! You may have to regret later.


MAKE THEM FEEL SPECIAL! That dose not mean that you go on telling them how special they are for you, it should be reflected in your talk.


When you get a call from them, do not pick up immediately if they informed you earlier about that. This will show them how desperately you wait for their call. 


If you both are talking and both of you stop at the same time, do not stay mum! Break the ice. Else the other person may feel uncomfortable in talking to you later.


Its important to know the likes and dislikes of the other person and to change yourself according! STUBBORNNESS wont help by any sorts.


Even if you are planning to reveal your feelings to them, select a right time and place for that. If you are going to ask them out in public, be ready to face a NO and public laughter!


Good luck!

How to forget your ex

Well forgetting your ex is only possible if you suffer from disease like AMNESIA! Yes thats true. Its never ever possible to forget your first love. That person will always stay in your heart till your last breath. You go on missing them and it kinda becomes unbearable to live. What you gotta do is to reduce the intensity of feelings for them. Ofcourse, that wouldnt happen OVERNIGHT! It takes time and we all know TIME HEALS EVERYTHING! So what should you do to reduce your feelings for them? 


You have to MOVE ON in your life! Yes, that probably is the best solution to the problem. LIFE NEVER STOPS because of anyone, whatsoever may be the case. Start making new friends. Go out and meet new people. Just try to forget for time being that you were in love with someone. You may get a better partner if you meet new people and try be friends with them.

DONT BE ALONE! When you are alone, all those thoughts will hit you up badly and you will get into ADDICTIONS, ruining your life! So keep yourself engrossed with some or another activity. Talk to your friends if you are feeling lonely. Start a NEW ACTIVITY that you love to do and get fully involved in it.


You need to realize and accept the fact that person is no longer with you. Acceptance will make things much easier for you. Ofcourse its just easy to say and difficult to implement but you have to give it a try and be in constant efforts to do that. Rather than wasting your time in figuring out what went wrong between you guys, you should plan to move ahead and forget the one who's least bothered about you. 

Start thinking that you deserve much better a person. I understand that your true love is always special for you and nobody can replace them, but there can be a better person waiting for you. Life is uncertain, you never know whats gonna happen next. And ya, EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR GOOD! Just make this statement as your life mantra, i bet nothing in the world will make you unhappy then!

People harass me, what to do?

This has been an issue with many kids who keep themselves isolated from rest of the world. So when you are alone its obvious that people will take an advantage of that.


You have to understand one thing here, people harass you because you NEVER ANSWER THEM BACK!. So when you are being teased by anyone dont be afraid or just run away from them. Answer them back and face the situation. Running away will encourage them to harass you more.


I dont understand why people love to be alone. This strange behavior may often gives a chance to others to make a fun of you. When you dont have FRIENDS TO BACK YOU UP, your backstabbers wont miss any opportunity to harass you. So you need to change yourself a bit and make new friends, would be tough initially but you can always be friends with others who do not have friends like you.


This perhaps i feel is more dominant amongst EMO kinda people, who do strange things and then get harassed by others. Change yourself to avoid being harassed please!